As I sit on my couch, writing this post at 10:38pm, I look around my living room and think “damn I really should clean instead of writing this”. But then again, I wouldn’t consider myself to be a hot mess parent if I did stop to clean.
So what exactly is a hot mess parent and what makes me qualified to write about this? Well it’s simply
Hot Mess Parent – a person, specifically a parent, who seems completely unorganized, unkempt and out of control but still manages to pull off parenting tasks each day. But at the same time, still keeps a sense of allure and attractiveness about them.
Why I’m qualified – I’ve been parenting even before I had my own children. There’s a 14 year age gap between myself and my twin siblings. So growing up, I was like a 3rd parent. But now that I have an almost 2 year old and another due in June, I’m definitely fitting that “hot mess” stereotype more days than not. I also changed it from hot mess mom to hot mess parent because let’s be realistic, dad’s can be hot messes too! It’s just more socially acceptable for dad’s not to have their shit together than it is for mom’s.
Some signs that you might be a hot mess parent include the following:
Your kids watch more TV than they do other activities
Your house is never fully clean (pile of unfolded laundry on a chair, sink full of dirty dishes, etc.)
You don’t give your kids balanced meals every single time they eat
You forget at least one thing every time you leave the house and don’t remember until you reach your destination.
I wanted to write this blog because I know I fuck up every single day when it comes to parenting. But I still manage to keep my child alive and happy and well fed; that’s the important shit. Now to make a clarification, when I originally brainstormed this idea I thought of doing this by myself. It didn’t hit me until a month later that I should probably include my husband/baby daddy in this because we’re in the same situation. So even though I, the wife/baby momma is writing this specific one; this is gonna be a tag team blog that we take on. M